What opening your throat chakra really feels like.


It is real cute to meditate, hold crystals and chant. This is doing throat chakra work but that is not the only work that has to be done. Opening your throat chakra should be uncomfortable. Blocks do not move without resistance.

Opening your throat chakra is telling your mother she can no longer manipulate you. It’s telling her that you will not be guilted or shamed into obedience. It will be scary.  Then it’s liberating. You start to feel at home in your big girl panties and matching pumps.

Unblocking the throat means telling your good girlfriend good-bye. You mean no malice but she has  got to go. You are not a garbage can and she can no longer dump on you. Offer her a referral for a therapist or send her an invoice. Just let it be known that you love her but you can’t be around her. Do no harm but take no sh!t.

I remember when I first started standing up for myself. It felt weird to only consider myself and say what was really on my mind. It is most difficult with people you love. I often found that when my intention was to do no harm and I spoke my truth, I suddenly felt relieved. All these years I had been waiting to exhale. The major key here is that it doesn’t matter how the other person responds. Most of the time people respected what I had to say even if they were initially offended. And I was still okay when some people never got over it.

Saying no without explanation was the hardest for me. I have been conditioned to decline with commentary. Why? To accomplish this you’re just going to have to jump  feet first. Start saying no over the phone so you don’t have to look at people’s faces. Then work your way up to face to face one word convos.

If you are doing throat chakra work aka standing up for yourself,  drink throat coat tea. Stay heavy-handed on the honey and lemon. Do a lot of deep breathing and expect your throat to be a little sore.

Purple Colored Rage: 3 ways to use lavender

Satan tried it, but I’m a demon slayer. The recent political climate has made me physically ill. I’ve tried various coping mechanisms. The first was to flee. I refused to watch the news, I closed down my facebook account and kept checking the date on my passport. Family is an anchor, if it weren’t for the guys I would be in another country right now. Cuba is looking very inviting and I still have family in Jamaica.

Then here comes sadness. I’ve been in my feelings; feeding them bagels, fries and refined sugar. Finally arriving at rage, my inner seething literally broke my immune system down. During the MLK weekend and the inauguration weekend I was sick in bed unable to do anything but sleep.

So my first order of action is MORE self care. Loving on myself is priority number one. I must be more intentional with taking care of myself which means trying new things for the benefit of my total wellness. I reintroduced myself to lavender. I haven’t been a fan in the past but I have found three ways to integrated lavender into my life and receive its calming benefit.

I drink Yogi’s Stress Relief Honey Lavender Tea. I made the mistake of drinking this tea at the day job and kept nodding off while the children were talking to me. Don’t be like me. Drink it before going to bed for optimum results. Another thing that has been helping me maintain is the use of oils. While decluttering I found a vial of lavender and vanilla oil. I place a few drops on temples and wrists during meditation. Focusing on the scent helps me find stillness quickly.

The family fave is Ganga incense. It is a mixture of cinnamon, lavender and jasmine. If heaven had a smell, this would be it. You only have to burn it for a few minutes for it to permeate the house. It changes the vibe instantly.
I know things appear bleak but take care of yourself. Remember that not much freedom fighting can be done from the inside of a straitjacket.




3 Ways to Shake That Load Off

Is your load particularly heavy? Have you failed to turned off your electronics? Do you go to sleep with the tv blasting the news? Do you talk to people about a whole bunch of heavy/negative stuff? Bless your heart, me too. We have to do better, we have to be a conduit not an empath. Negative energy must flow through us. We can not absorb it. Here are 3 ways to shake that load off aka let go of negative energy.

Commune with Nature

Take your shoes and socks off and rub your feet in the grass. Ask mother earth to carry away the negative energy and replace it with her loving energy. Sunbathe if possible. If you are able to sunbathe in the nude you will have the most optimal results.

Take a Spiritual Bath

You can see a priest or priestess and allow them to give you a bath or you can order online a bath already made here. Here is DIY video of how you can make your own:

Don’t say I never gave you anything.

Have a Good Cry

Let it out. Have a sister friend, partner or husband hold you, while you have a good ugly cry. Advise your comforter that you need to release and they are not to say or do anything besides hold space for you. If your husband is super awesome like mine, a good joke is a nice follow-up to this cleansing process.

Take care of yourself and each other!


Keeping The Short Person Chemical Free This Summer

You all should know by now that I love most products by Babyganics and California Baby. This fact doesn’t change in the summertime. Make sure you use sunscreen, yes, you too, mothers of melanated babies! Put the d@mn sunscreen on! My favorite is  California Baby, it has the cleanest ingredients of the store-bought products I’ve tried. However it is priced a $16.99 for a 2.9oz bottle at Target.  It leaves my short person with a pinkish tint yet you only need a small amount. With Babyganic’s sunscreen you get more for your buck. $9.99 for a 6oz bottle. It also has a greater SPF. However, you will have to reapply more often.

sunscreen california baby

As the mother of a rambunctious 3 year old boy, I recognize the loving relationship boys have with dirt. King is always asking to go to the park, take a walk/go hiking and/or go swimming. He loves nature and I hate bugs. I’m am very suburban. Don’t judge my life. If you follow me on snapchat and Instagram you may have noticed  the picture of my homemade bug repellant. While walking into the house I was accosted by a sea of gnats. My level of irritation sparked me into action. Promptly after showering, I abracadabraed a concoction together and sprayed my door, porch light & into the air near the front of my door. Gnats don’t want it with me! We have had no more problems.

This homemade repellant is too strong for the short person & I definitely don’t need him rubbing it into his eyes. Here are of a few store-bought, gentle and effective brands. I don’t like the smell of citronella in general, most DEET-free natural products have some form of citronella in it, so I’m pretty much out of luck.
bite blocker

California Baby’s repellant has a citronella smell that isn’t as strong as pure citronella but it comes pretty close. Burt’s Bees has a brand that is mixed with lavender. I found that to be the least offensive to my nose. The best smelling repellant is Skin So Soft by Avon but it is the least effective and requires many reapplications. Off, has even gotten on the band wagon and created a fragrance free version of their product. I still can’t pronounce any of the ingredients though. Last but certainly not least, Bite Blocker gets an honorable mention. I have heard nothing but rave reviews although I have yet to try it. I will let you know as soon as it shows up at my door. God bless the inventor of online shopping.

Hey Moms, if you have a mimosa in the morning, wine a lunch and a stiff drink at dinner; I am not judging you. Well, just a little, but I recognize that summertime can be challenging. The children are home from school, eating you out of a house and home and expect you to entertain them especially if they are elementary school age and younger. That is enough to lead any civilized person to drink. If you are putting back one too many and forget to put the sunscreen and/or bug repellant on the kids and the kids come home bumpy and tender; don’t fret.  Break off a big piece of that aloe plant and rub them down. Aloe will heal both the burns and inflammation.


Enjoy your short people, they will never be this short again!